sex or love?
its not like me to be pro love.. but bare with me. I’ve been thinking lately, what is it about us that yearns to be held, to be kissed, to be loved?
But then again, what happens after this yearning goes away?
what about the getting married part? I’ve come to this conclusion that the only reason that people get married is to have sex. and to have kids.
is that a good enough reason?
in our world (this island) it seems to me that people get married to have sex legally. am i right?
but what happens when this passion goes away?
so here’s the scenario, boy meets pretty girl. boy flirts with pretty girl. boy talks to pretty girl. boy’s phone bill hits the roof from talking to pretty girl (because boy and girl cannot go out in public). boy tries to talk pretty girl into sleeping with him. girl uses that power to pressure boy to marry her. they marry. they screw.
then what?
girl loses incentive to be pretty and her REAL self is revealed that she’s a real person with flaws and PMS (cause here, girls are only trying to bait boys into marriage. once they do, they don’t need to) girl gains weight. girl gets pregnant, whatever..
so for a relationship thats based on looks and sex. what makes the marraige last?
ok, its funny, when i first started writing this post, i was sorta optimistic about love.. it kinda took a weird turn…
how many times do i have to have this argument with u? marriage is not all about sex!! u of all people know that i’m not the romantic type, but it does not hurt to think that people who are married can have some feelings for each other. and by feelings i do not mean pure lust.
you may be right about the fact that having sex is the reason why some people get married ,but these are the stupid horny ones. they should not be taken as an example!
so, sex or love?! some people do not get married for any of the two reasons. they simply get married because it’s ” sunnat el hayya”. love will eventually come and sex may not matter at all. i know that was the case with my grandparents whom i think had a very good marriage. my grand father wasn’t romeo and my grand mother wasn’t juliette, and they definitely had many problems along the way . but all i know is that past the age of sixty they could still sit together and talk, they still cared about each other and they were surrounded by 17 of their grandchildren who loves them both soo much. to me that is marriage!
so again all i’m saying is that marriage is an establishment , it’s not just a way of legalising sex. period.
may sweetie .. our generation didn’t invent sex. So I’m sure that even the older generation married for this reason. what i don’t get is the “get married now, and love will come after”. HOW DO YOU KNOW???!?!?!?! what if he has this annoying habbit that just makes you want to shoot yourself. i dunno .. i guess i’m sorta getting out of topic .. u know i love you may m .. but use another nick name next time!!!! .. people think im commenting for myself and replying to my comment even .. haha ..